CHANGES THAT HEAL
I have to sadly admit that the first time I heard a talk on boundaries it all went over my head, and I didn’t get a thing about the subject. Happily this is no longer true. The reason that the subject sounded so foreign to me was that I was in a very very co-dependent relationship. Co-dependency is just the opposite of boundaries.
Boundaries are what makes you you and not me. It is like the skin on your body that keeps all of the gooey stuff inside of us where it belongs. Boundaries is like the fence that divides your property from your neighbors. Good boundaries are well defined, and secure from the things that we do not want to penetrate them. Boundaries are our realization that we are our own person apart from others.
Your personal boundaries are many.
Physical space. How do you feel when I am standing too close?
Attitudes. You don’t feel the same way about things as I do.
Feelings. Nobody can MAKE you feel a certain way unless you let them.
Behavior. We certainly don’t behave the same way.
Thoughts. Do you know what I am thinking?
Abilities. We all have different talents.
Desires. Why do you want something different than I want?
Choices. We always have opportunities for different options.
Limits. We may let some people closer than others.
What if we were all the same?
What makes you different than any other human God created?