What does our attitude need to be about good and bad? Imagine if when we hurt somebody else, that instead of dwelling on the badness of the situation and heaping guilt and resentment upon ourselves, we reach out of ourselves in an attitude of Godly sorrow and help the ones who are hurting. What would our lives be like if we lived in a position and attitude of “no condemnation”?
The reasons that we so readily split good and bad come both from nature and nurture. We are born with a desire to be like God. If fact it is this desire that both led to Satan’s fall from heaven, and Man’s fall from the Garden of Eden.
Since it is all too true that nobody is perfect, we are raised by imperfect people. These imperfect people that we grow up with and learn from throughout our most impressionable years make quite an impression on how we perceive ourselves, our goodness and badness, as well as the goodness and badness in the world we live in.
We most likely are drawn like a magnet to marry somebody who will most complete the inequities of our personality, and so form a co-dependent relationship that pushes us even further into the dysfunction of it all.
But just how can we get it all back together? It takes Grace and Truth over much time to resolve these issues and bring tranquility back to our beings.
Confession. If we can confess our sins to one another and live with a sense of grace this will take us al long way. Once our sins are brought into the light of forgiveness and grace, we feel much better about ourselves and our state of goodness or badness.
Forgiveness. Once we realize that others will forgive our badness, it makes it all the more easy for us to forgive the badness we see in others. This circle of grace and acceptance builds a real basis for healing in our lives.