Remember the Robin Williams character Mork? He had an advantage over us in that he was born an adult, and as he got older, became more childish. Perhaps life would be easier if we could do that. <\/p>\n
I can remember all my childhood thinking about how things would be when I finally grew up. For the most part, my parents left me alone, and I had to determine out how to do life mostly on my own. Many people hear things from their parents so much as a kid, that when they leave home, they can still hear their parent’s voices telling them what to do and how to do it. It is these voices that we need to recognize, and learn to start doing things our own way and not feel like we are usurping our parent’s authority while we are doing it.<\/p>\n
Chapter 15 includes a description of many of these voices and how they are affecting our lives as adults. People who have any experience with ACA (Adult Children Anonymous) may recognize several of these things, but they are certainly not limited to adult children of alcoholics.<\/p>\n
Inordinate need for approval\t\t\tFear of disapproval<\/p>\n
Guilt\t\t\t\t\t\tSexual struggles<\/p>\n
Fear of failure\t\t\t\t\tNeed for permission<\/p>\n
Feelings of inferiority\t\t\t\tCompetitiveness<\/p>\n
Loss of power\t\t\t\t\tNo equal differences<\/p>\n
Black-and-White thinking\t\t\tJudgementalism<\/p>\n
Anxiety attacks\t\t\t \tImpulsiveness and inhibition<\/p>\n
Superiority\t\t\t\t\tParenting others<\/p>\n
Hate for authority figures\t\t\tDepression<\/p>\n
Dependency\t\t\t\t\tIdealization of authority<\/p>\n
Idealization of childhood<\/p>\n
Take a look at the list of distorted thinking on page 241. I see many similarities to the list of Adult Child Characteristics.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
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